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About Hannah Pickering

Hannah is a musician and painter living in Nashville, TN. When she and her husband aren’t touring the country leading worship, Hannah can be found hanging out at home with their dog Esther, running her Etsy shop, Bible journaling, and writing. She has a passion for helping people connect with God through worship and encouraging people in their creative gifts. Find her on Instagram @hannahpickering.

February 4, 2016

What I’ve Learned in Marriage

I met my husband Wes when I was 19.  He was 24.  A whirlwind of a year later, we were married!  Now, I’m 25 and he’s 31. Since it’s almost Valentine’s Day, I’m going to share a little of what God has revealed to me about love through five years of marriage and share my perspective on getting married at a young age.

Marriage is a powerfully tangible metaphor for God’s love.  The love and incredible bond between a married couple is just a glimpse of a believer’s relationship with God and of God’s love for His children.  I had a basic understanding of this idea before getting married, but now it becomes more evident to me everyday.  1 Corinthians 13:12-13 reads, “For now we see indistinctly, as in a mirror, but then face to face.  Now I know in part, but then I will know fully, as I am fully known.  Now these three remain: faith, hope, and love.  But the greatest of these is love.”  This passage perfectly articulates that the mystery of God’s love is partially revealed to us here on earth in a unique way though marriage and that it will be fully revealed to us when we reach Heaven.

Marriage has also taught me about the necessity of relying on God to be able to love well.  John 13:34-35 reads, “A new command I give you: Love one another.  As I have loved you, so you must love one another.  By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.”  This passage of scripture has been really important to me in regard to my work in ministry and in simply modeling my life after Jesus’. Yet after five years of marriage, this passage has taken on a new meaning because, after the newlywed/head-over-heels love wears off and life gets tough, I’ve realized that any love I can muster on my own just isn’t enough.  Human love runs out, gives up, and gets old, but God’s love never fails.  It’s only by abiding in and operating out of His love that I am able to love unconditionally.

The past five years have also given me a new outlook on getting married young.  I’ve often heard it said that someone shouldn’t get married until he or she has experienced X, Y, and Z, and knows who he or she is – as if there has to be a certain amount of self-understanding before a person can make the unfathomably weighty commitment of marriage.  This was definitely not true for me.  I was 20 when I got married and, while I had every confidence that marrying Wes was the right thing to do, I was still in college, jobless, moving to a new city, and unsure of what I wanted to do in life.  I wasn’t even completely sure of my calling, yet I knew without a shadow of a doubt that God would reveal whatever He had in store for me over time and that that time would include being married to Wes.  In a sense, I didn’t know what I was doing but I knew it was ok.

I’ve learned the incredibly special thing about getting married young is that you get to figure out life together, and together is better. “Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their efforts.  For if either falls, his companion can lift him up…” (Eccl. 4:9-10).

This Valentine’s Day, if you’re pondering love and maybe even the leap of faith that is marriage, know that’s only by God’s love that any love is possible.  If God’s plan for you includes marriage, whether while you’re young or later in life, rest assured that love happens in His timing.  That timing might seem crazy when it happens, but that’s ok, because God knows what He’s doing even when we don’t.

By: Hannah Pickering · Filed Under: Life · Tagged: love, marriage, valentines

December 20, 2015

Advent – Day 22

Today we enter the fourth and final week of Advent. From now until Christmas Eve, the focus of Advent is preparation for the celebration of Christ’s birth.

With Christmas just five days away, the mad dash has begun! As we take time to prepare ourselves for parties and get-togethers, the last few hurried workdays of the year, and holiday travel, let’s take a moment to prepare our hearts by praying this prayer:

In this season of expectation
We prepare to welcome Christ Jesus, Messiah
Into the bustle of our lives
and the hard-to-find moments of solitude.
We prepare to welcome Christ Jesus, Messiah
Into our homes and situations,
along with friends and families.
We prepare to welcome Christ Jesus, Messiah
Into our hearts, and those often hidden parts of our lives.
We prepare to welcome Christ Jesus, Messiah.
For beneath the surface of your story
Is an inescapable fact:
You entered this world
As vulnerable as any one of us
In order to nail that vulnerability to the cross.
Our fears, our insecurities, and our sins –
All that can separate us from God
Exchanged by your Grace for Love.
We cannot comprehend the reasoning;
Only marvel that Salvation comes to us
Through a baby born in a stable,
And reaches out to a world in need.

In this season of anticipation
We prepare to welcome Christ Jesus, Messiah

As we enter this last week of Advent, we pray for the peace of God’s presence in our preparation. The day we celebrate God’s greatest gift – Jesus – is so near! Let’s put our hearts in order and dwell in the assurance that the Prince of Peace has come and is coming again.

Credit: Photo by Sarah Simon // Instagram: @themintgardener // Prayer source: Faith and Worship – Christian Prayers and Resources

By: Hannah Pickering · Filed Under: Advent · Tagged: advent, bible study, prayer

December 10, 2015

Advent – Day 12

One of the major themes of Advent is preparing for the celebration of the birth of Christ. Isaiah 40:3 paints a beautiful picture of this preparation when Isaiah prophesies about “A voice of one crying out: Prepare the way of the LORD in the wilderness; make a straight highway for our God in the desert.”  In the New Testament, John the Baptists fulfills that prophecy.  This is what John Coffin is referring to in his Advent hymn “On Jordan’s bank, the Baptist’s Cry.”

On Jordan’s bank, the Baptist’s cry
Announces that the Lord is nigh;
Awake, and hearken, for he brings
Glad tidings of the King of kings!

Then cleansed be every breast from sin;
Make straight the way for God within;
Prepare we in our hearts a home
Where such a mighty Guest may come.

For Thou art our Salvation, Lord,
Our Refuge, and our great Reward.
Without Thy grace we waste away,
Like flowers that wither and decay.

To heal the sick stretch out Thine hand,
And bid the fallen sinner stand;
Shine forth, and let Thy light restore
Earth’s own true lovliness once more.

Stretch forth thine hand, to heal our sore,
And make us rise to fall no more;
Once more upon thy people shine,
And fill the world with love divine.

All praise, eternal Son, to Thee
Whose advent sets Thy people free,
Whom, with the Father, we adore,
And Holy Ghost, forevermore

Matthew 3:1-6

In those days John the Baptist came, preaching in the Wilderness of Judea and saying, “Repent, because the kingdom of heaven has come near!” For he is the one spoken of through the prophet Isaiah, who said:

A voice of one crying out in the wilderness:

Prepare the way for the Lord;

make His paths straight.

John himself had a camel-hair garment with a leather belt around his waist, and his food was locusts and wild honey. Then people from Jerusalem, all Judea, and all the vicinity of the Jordan were flocking to him, and they were baptized by him in the Jordan River as they confessed their sins.

This passage of Scripture shows us several important facts about John the Baptist.  First, John was a man of simple means.  Second, John was on a mission to proclaim the Gospel.  Third, John was available for the people in the area to come to him.  We can adapt these findings into three simple phrases to keep in mind during Advent and prepare for celebrating Christmas:

No distractions.

Focus on what really matters.

Be present.

Looking inward to prepare our hearts to celebrate the arrival of Jesus, it’s vital that the busyness and consumerism of the season not distract us.  How can we “make straight the way for God within” and prepare our hearts, as the hymn says, when we get so caught up in something like Christmas shopping, for instance, that we forget the reason why we’re exchanging gifts in the first place?

Turing our attention outward, we can continue to prepare our hearts for Christmas Day by simply focusing on what really matters.  John, the “voice crying out it the wilderness” (Matthew 3:3), speaking with such urgency, illustrates that telling others about Christ is what matters most.  Thankfully, the Christmas season affords us special opportunities to share the love of Christ because evidence of His coming is all around us in the decorations, giving, and music.  From simply saying “Merry Christmas” to being generous with our time and our money, there are countless ways to share our faith in our words and actions.

Proper focus goes hand-in-hand with being present during this season.  Just as John was present and available for the people of Judea to come to him to hear the gospel and confess their sins (Matthew 3:5-6), we should be aware of the people around us and make time for them.  Christmastime is often when people are the most aware that their lives aren’t what they should be because they realize they don’t have what the season is supposed to be about – love, joy, and peace.  With Christmas just two weeks away, let’s not be in such a rush that we don’t take time be and give that love, joy, and peace that people need.

All too often, the details of our Christmas festivities, which usually start out with the best intentions, eclipse the real reason for our celebration.  If you’re like me and you look forward all year long to the perfect Christmas and something small goes wrong, it’s very easy to let negativity take over.  For example, the Christmas cookies might get burnt moments before guests arrive.  Someone’s long-searched-for gift might get lost in the mail.  Family members might argue.  Flights might get delayed…  The list goes on.

Yet none of these things are out of God’s control, nor do they deserve to be the center of our attention.  All of these “bad” circumstances are opportunities for funny memories, second chances, drawing closer, and new possibilities.  John the Baptist (who wore animal skin and foraged for food!) didn’t let any kind of personal preference, comfort, or consumerism overtake the matter at hand – proclaiming Christ – and neither should we.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by and unprepared for Christmas, embrace the Advent season, reread Coffin’s hymn, and turn these lyrics into a prayer for godly perspective, focus, and mission:

Make straight the way for God within;

Prepare we in our hearts a home

Where such a mighty Guest may come.

Credit: Calligraphy by Stephanie Ko // http://simplystephko.com // Instagram: @simplysteph

By: Hannah Pickering · Filed Under: Advent · Tagged: advent, bible study

December 1, 2015

Advent – Day 3

There are so many inspiring words associated with Advent: arrival, appearance, emergence, dawn, birth, rise, development.

My favorite of these words, especially this year, is dawn.

Dawn gives the idea of new beginnings, light, and waking up.  Dawn is a wonderful metaphor for what happens in our lives when we come to faith in Christ. Christ illuminates the way for us; His light is a lamp unto our feet, and a light unto our path (Psalm 119:105). If we follow in this path and “walk in this light,” we are cleansed from our sin (1 John. 1:7) – which is only possible because of the Advent of Christ.

Dawn also is beautiful picture of the newness of God’s mercies anytime we mess up. Lamentations 3:22-23 says:

“The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

No matter what has happened in your life this past year, the Advent season is an invitation to refocus your life and put things in perspective for the celebration of Christ’s birth.

There is a beautiful 19th century Advent hymn by Edward Caswell that tells of this dawning of God’s mercy on our lives through the First Coming of Christ and the unbelievable joy that will occur with Second Coming.

Hark! A thrilling voice is sounding!
“Christ is nigh!” it seems to say;
“Cast away the dreams of darkness,
O ye children of the day!

Startled at the solemn warning,
Let the earth-bound soul arise;
Christ, her Sun, all ill dispelling,
Shines upon the morning skies.

Lo, the Lamb, so long expected,
Comes with pardon down from heaven.
Let us haste, with tears of sorrow,
One and all, to be forgiven,

That, when next He comes with glory
And the world is wrapped in fear,
With His mercy He may shield us
And with words of love draw near.

Honor, glory, might, and blessing,
To the Father and the Son,
With the everlasting Spirit,
While eternal ages run!

Continuing with the theme of dawn and light, here is some biblical context for the hymn:

Romans 13:11-14

“Besides this, knowing the time, it is already the hour for you to wake up from sleep, for now our salvation is nearer than when we first believed. The night is nearly over, and the daylight is near, so let us discard the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us walk with decency, as in the daylight: not in carousing and drunkenness; not in sexual impurity and promiscuity; not in quarreling and jealousy. But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no plans to satisfy the fleshly desires.”

John 8:12

“I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

Matthew 5:14

“You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden.”

1 Thessalonians 5:5

“You are all children of the light and children of the day. We do not belong to the night or to the darkness.”

Christ is the Light of the World. As the children of God, we are to live life in the light, not in darkness, which is why Caswell’s hymn calls us “children of the day.” Romans 13:12 instructs us to “wake up” and put on the “armor of light” because daylight is near. We are commanded to live in the Light and to be a light to the world.

Referring to the Second Coming of Christ – the Second Advent – Romans 13:11 says, “Salvation is nearer than when we first believed.” With each passing moment, the time of Christ’s Second Coming is closer and closer. This means we have no time to lose in breaking the chains of whatever might be holding us back from serving God at our fullest potential. Knowing this gives us a sense of urgency in following God and sharing the Gospel. And, while it can be quite intimidating to share our faith, the Advent season is both a reminder of the world’s need for a Savior and is an open door to tell people about the real “reason for the season,” as the somewhat cliché (albeit true) saying goes.

Remembering the First Coming and looking towards the Second, we can take great comfort in the fact that if God is for us, no one can be against us (Romans 8:31). So, we can have every confidence in both reorienting our hearts and in going all-out to be the “light of the world” (Matthew 5:14) this Advent season.

If you are in need of direction in refocusing and preparing your heart for Christmas, ask yourself these questions:

  • What chains might be holding you back from fully serving God right now?
  • What does putting on the “armor of light” look like for you?
  • What can you do this Christmas season to be a light to someone?
  • What might be dawning for you in the New Year?

Listen to God’s voice. Break away from darkness. Urgently pursue Christ. Joyfully look to life in the Light.  It’s wonderfully bright and others desperately need to see it.

Credit: Calligraphy by Stephanie Ko // www.simplystephko.com // Instagram: @simplystephko

By: Hannah Pickering · Filed Under: Advent · Tagged: advent, bible study

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